Most of the things that sap my time and energy as a pastor—or in any aspect of life—are things I can't do by try anyway.
I don't mean dreams that are too big or goals that are too challenging. Those represent things I might accomplish if I work diligently and God blesses the effort.
I'm referring to things that nobody can do—they simply cannot be done.
- Trying to make people like you.
- Attempting to make decisions for other people.
- Controlling the behavior of another person.
- Pleasing everyone.
- Avoiding all mistakes.
- Trying to do everything.
If the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing while expecting different results, it would be crazy to continue acting as if any of us could accomplish these things. The best thing you can do to boost your self-esteem, productivity, and ability to sleep is to simply stop doing them.
Instead, focus on the things that are within your control. Here's a short list of things you and I can do if we try.
- Communicate clearly.
- Be cheerful and friendly.
- Work diligently.
- Set priorities and allocate time based on your highest values.
- Make reasonable attempts to resolve conflicts.
- Build relationships that allow you to speak into the lives of others.
- Accept the things you cannot change.
- Love yourself and others—in spite of your many flaws.
What would you add to this list?
