She sat in my office, tight-lipped, teary, determined not to allow years’ worth of anger to boil into some sort of scene. “It’s taken me a long time to get this far,” she said. “But I think I’m finally ready to do this.”
“This” was re-joining the church after a lapse of maybe five years. Why now? Because her husband, a veteran pastor who had been in a non-parish assignment was ready to accept an appointment. If that were to happen, she would have to rejoin the denomination he served.
So, for the sake of her husband’s career, she was willing, finally, to move beyond the emotional beating she’d taken from a previous congregation and make her peace with the local church.
And that, right there, explains the unique challenge of being a pastor’s wife, something many churches and even some pastors do not understand.